❓QUESTION:
How does divorce affect children?
❗️ANSWER from lee:
Divorce is not an independent entity with its own inherent meaning; rather, it is a process. If you use this transition to establish a harmonious life apart, you are fostering peace, which stands in stark contrast to the discord of living together unhappily.
Furthermore, parents who stay together "for the sake of the children" often end up resenting them later, claiming they sacrificed their own lives for their children's benefit. The reality is that children aren't concerned with these sacrifices; they either experienced genuine harmony with you or witnessed a performance. Your perceived sacrifice might evoke contempt or pity, but they certainly won't want to carry the burden of responsibility for your choices.
You should not project your own feelings onto others. What a person truly feels is their current reality.
Institutions like the state and religion discourage divorce because it makes people harder to control. This is the origin of myths regarding the "violation of divine laws."
However, there is only one "divine rule": your life is a reflection of what you feel. A whole life is built from the feelings experienced in minutes, hours, days, and years. By being honest with yourself in every passing moment, you cannot go wrong.
