In a recent event held at The School of Life Brazil in São Paulo, renowned author and psychologist Philippa Perry emphasized the importance of empathy in parenting. During her talk at the 6th G.A.T.E. Academy on December 1, 2024, she discussed how adults need to view the world from a child's perspective to truly understand their feelings.
Perry, who is known for her books 'How to Stay Sane' and 'The Book You Wish Your Loved Ones Would Read,' highlighted that to genuinely like our children, we must empathize with their experiences. She urged parents to imagine what it’s like for children to feel small, tired, and alone, especially during bedtime.
According to Perry, when we connect with a child's feelings, we foster a supportive environment that encourages emotional growth. She criticized the tendency of parents to pathologize normal feelings like sadness and anxiety, suggesting that this leads to a misunderstanding of emotional resilience.
She pointed out that in the 1980s, only one in a thousand children was diagnosed with ADHD, indicating a shift in how society views childhood behavior. Perry argued that instead of labeling children, we should focus on nurturing their emotional well-being and teaching them that discomfort is a part of life.
Ultimately, Perry’s insights advocate for a balanced approach to parenting that combines empathy with clear boundaries, allowing children to feel safe while also learning to manage their emotions.