Reflecting on childhood phrases like "Don't cry, or people will see," or "Boys don't cry," reveals a common belief among parents that they are instilling resilience and emotional control in their children. However, such teachings often lead to suppressing emotions, creating a host of psychological complexes.
This emotional suppression can result in adults who struggle to express their feelings, even to those closest to them, and who may be considered "emotionally closed off." The process of nurturing and educating a child begins at birth, where they experience love, care, and positive affirmations, forming habits during feeding, sleeping, and interaction.
Emotional education serves as a guiding voice for children, providing encouragement and a sense of security in their every step, teaching them to rise after each fall. By the age of eight, children develop self-awareness and an understanding of the world around them, forming their personalities and interests.
As children explore their emotions with curiosity, it is the parents' role to provide support, independence, and daily love. Children should grow to become the best versions of themselves, understanding their potential and limitations. Parents must emphasize the importance of self-awareness and independence while avoiding overprotectiveness, which can lead to irresponsibility or low self-esteem.
When a child makes a mistake, instead of punishment, parents should explain what went wrong and how to do better next time. Helping children understand their emotions is crucial; they need to know what they feel, why they feel it, and how to manage it.
As children mature, they should be given more responsibilities, learning that life is not just about rights and freedoms, but also about accountability for their actions, which fosters independence.
From an early age, children must learn that they can't always have everything they want immediately. For instance, if an eight-year-old asks for an expensive smartphone, explain clearly and respectfully why it is not appropriate for them yet. If they react with anger, it indicates they haven't learned to accept disappointment. With the right approach, such situations can be calmly explained.
Teach children to find happiness in what they already have while encouraging them to strive for more without suppressing their ambitions.