Throughout history, artists, philosophers, and thinkers have often embraced solitude, claiming it allows the brain to reset and recharge. Solitude can be a fertile ground for creative projects, as it frees our minds to wander and alleviates negative emotions. In solitude, one is free to do what they want, think what they want, and be who they want.
It's important to distinguish between feeling lonely and simply being alone. Kira Burdette, a research professor at the University of Michigan's Institute for Social Research, states, "Being alone does not mean you are lonely." Conversely, one can feel lonely even when surrounded by others. Julie Booker, a psychology professor at the University of Buffalo, explains that loneliness indicates a lack of sufficient social relationships.
Nita Weinstein, a psychology professor at the University of Reading and co-author of the book "Solitude: The Science and Power of Being Alone," notes that one of the key findings regarding solitude is that if it is chosen for its value, it tends to be a more positive experience. However, if it is imposed, it is often less positive. Weinstein suggests that solitude can foster different and more creative thinking, with many people describing it as a time for reflection, reorganization of thoughts, and connecting with their inner experiences and emotions.
A study involving 295 university students found a positive correlation between creativity and individuals who prefer solitude. While some may feel bored or introspective when alone, for others, solitude is a rewarding experience. As Koblansky points out, "For some, it's punishment. For others, it's a reward."
Although some solitude is beneficial for everyone, there is a relationship between the amount of time people spend alone and feelings of loneliness. There is no fixed rule determining how much solitude we need. What we do know is that everyone requires a balance between alone time and time spent with others.
Whether you have 30 minutes or an entire day to yourself, you can maximize your solitary time with a few simple tips:
Organize Your Time: Plan something to look forward to; otherwise, you may find yourself doing unfulfilling activities.
Don’t Blame Yourself: Self-blame can lead to negative feelings. Everyone has a different life, so comparing yourself to others is unhelpful.
Don’t Hesitate to Ask for Help: Reach out to loved ones or friends, or even professionals for support.
Relax: Engage in calming activities such as gardening, listening to music, walking, reading, or creative hobbies.
Be Realistic: Don’t expect someone to open up and share their life story after just a couple of meetings. Unrealistic expectations can lead to resentment.
Enjoy a Meal Alone: Treat yourself to lunch or dinner at a place you love.
Try Something Different: Engage in a new activity like drawing, dancing, or crafting that energizes you.
Avoid Social Media: Turn off notifications for apps you use to minimize distractions.
Steer Clear of Negativity: To combat loneliness, distance yourself from people who contribute to it.
Accept Your Feelings: Don’t suppress your emotions. Negative feelings are part of you; allow them to flow freely.
Support Yourself: Explore your feelings through a journey, no matter how long or far. Remember, prioritizing your mental, physical, and emotional health is essential.